It’s really difficult to deal with someone hating you.
I like to think that I’m a pretty fair-minded person. I’m kind. I have nothing but respect for people. But I get tired of people who believe they have a right to disrespect me based on my sexuality. It’s exhausting, to always be the better person. It wears me out to smile and say that I support the right for someone to say that I’m going to hell because of who I love. I believe wholeheartedly that religious freedom is important. I believe that freedom of speech is important. And I try so hard to treat people with the same respect that I would like to receive.
But how far can you go before it’s not being the better person but letting someone walk all over you? Where is the line between being respectful and being submissive?
It’s hard. I’m always struggling to figure out where I stand. I have to watch my step and my back at the same time. Because I can do everything right and still be the target of hatred and anger.
People who don’t even know me hate me with a wrath that I can’t even direct towards my greatest enemies. They wouldn’t hesitate to take my confidence, my rights, my love, my life. They wouldn’t think twice about jumping me in a dark alley because I’m comfortable enough in my own skin to hold my partner’s hand.
The fact of the matter is, I can’t really be comfortable in my own skin. I can’t be too much like myself, because the moment I do someone will find a way to remind me that I am a hindrance to them. They’ll remind me that my very existence is detrimental to their life, even if they don’t know me. It’s all over the internet. It’s in the news, it’s embedded in our society. We can’t escape it. I can’t escape it.
So how do you deal with that? With the words people hurl at your back when they think you can’t hear them, with the threats of people you’ve never met, with the hatred of hundreds of people who don’t like you because you’re you?
How do you deal with the hatred of love?
For all the suffering in the world, there is also overcoming.
It’s okay to be human. It’s okay to hurt, to be angry, to cry and scream and make mistakes. But what’s most important is to remember who you are. Even if I can’t be my true self all the time, I know who that true self is. And there’s always a part of that in who I am. There’s always a part of me in me.
Overcome.
I like to think that I’m a pretty fair-minded person. I’m kind. I have nothing but respect for people. But I get tired of people who believe they have a right to disrespect me based on my sexuality. It’s exhausting, to always be the better person. It wears me out to smile and say that I support the right for someone to say that I’m going to hell because of who I love. I believe wholeheartedly that religious freedom is important. I believe that freedom of speech is important. And I try so hard to treat people with the same respect that I would like to receive.
But how far can you go before it’s not being the better person but letting someone walk all over you? Where is the line between being respectful and being submissive?
It’s hard. I’m always struggling to figure out where I stand. I have to watch my step and my back at the same time. Because I can do everything right and still be the target of hatred and anger.
People who don’t even know me hate me with a wrath that I can’t even direct towards my greatest enemies. They wouldn’t hesitate to take my confidence, my rights, my love, my life. They wouldn’t think twice about jumping me in a dark alley because I’m comfortable enough in my own skin to hold my partner’s hand.
The fact of the matter is, I can’t really be comfortable in my own skin. I can’t be too much like myself, because the moment I do someone will find a way to remind me that I am a hindrance to them. They’ll remind me that my very existence is detrimental to their life, even if they don’t know me. It’s all over the internet. It’s in the news, it’s embedded in our society. We can’t escape it. I can’t escape it.
So how do you deal with that? With the words people hurl at your back when they think you can’t hear them, with the threats of people you’ve never met, with the hatred of hundreds of people who don’t like you because you’re you?
How do you deal with the hatred of love?
For all the suffering in the world, there is also overcoming.
It’s okay to be human. It’s okay to hurt, to be angry, to cry and scream and make mistakes. But what’s most important is to remember who you are. Even if I can’t be my true self all the time, I know who that true self is. And there’s always a part of that in who I am. There’s always a part of me in me.
Overcome.
I think you are correct people are going to hate you no matter what. You could do everything perfect and they could still hate you. I think it is important to be true to yourself if we all the same life would be pretty boarding. Different types of people make our lives exciting.
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